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The 5 Biggest & Most Damaging Lies We Tell Ourselves

Posted on Sep 16, 2013

The 5 Biggest & Most Damaging Lies We Tell Ourselves

Your truth is at the heart of your experience of life. It drives every thought you have, every emotion you feel, every decision you make and every action you take. Becoming aware of these powerful thoughts can be extremely empowering, because it gives you a real opportunity to change them and replace them with the truths and beliefs that empower you to create what you imagine for yourself. This is what changes your experience! Below are five of the most damaging, limiting and time-consuming I AM beliefs you can hold and five REPLACEMENT TRUTHS. I encourage you to challenge any negative beliefs that you hold to be true, and embrace new, more empowering ideas of who you are. An exciting reality is only a few changed personal truths away! 1.“I AM not fortunate enough.” We can’t change the past or the conditions with which we entered this lifetime. We can, however work from the current circumstances to build the conditions that will lift us to a new experience of life. Resisting the truth of your situation or being jealous of others only adds time to what you truly want to create. The truth is that you’re fortunate in a million different ways and blessed with a million different creative opportunities. Replacement: I AM fortunate in every way imaginable. 2.“I AM not attractive enough.” Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and the most important beholder is always you. The way you look at who you are has an immeasurable positive or negative effect on all who look at you. Feel beautiful, loving and accepting of yourself and everyone around you will feel it and even comment on it! Feel unattractive, unloving, and down on yourself and others will feel that too. The truth is that you are beautiful and attractive as you feel and express. True beauty is an inside job! Replacement: I AM a beautiful, attractive, and loving human being. 3. “I AM not capable enough.” You never know what’s going to happen next. Just because something hasn’t happened for you doesn’t mean it won’t happen in the future. This thought becomes really damaging when you say it about something you’ve never even tried doing before. How do you know until you try? You don’t know what you’re truly capable of until you give everything you have to the effort. There’s no such thing as failure; there’s only the opportunity to learn. Replacement: I AM capable of anything I put my mind and heart towards. 4. “I AM not worthy enough.” There is a statement in my book that says, “Your existence as matter is the self-evident truth that you matter.” It’s not your worthiness that’s in question — only your belief about your worthiness! The truth is that you’re worthy of anything you put your heart, mind and soul into, including love, a job, abundance, health, peace of mind and all the other fruits of the world. That fact that you are here, now, means you ARE worthy. Accept this truth and open the door to the experience of it! Replacement: I AM worthy of all I imagine for myself. 5.“I AM not significant or lovable enough.” There isn’t another human being in the world more or less significant or capable of love than you. Significance is defined in your mind first, then it flows into your feelings and actions. Feeling significant in your own mind translates into thoughts, words, and deeds that have significance in the world around you. You must start from the place of total self-acceptance and self-love in order to feel significant...

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Learning To Live Stress Free

Posted on Jun 22, 2013

Learning To Live Stress Free

Millions across the globe fight stress every day. The toll on the physical and mental health of those affected is impossible to calculate.  While the world has found different ways to cope, many of these ways have a harsh backside to them. Alcohol, prescription drugs, and illegal drugs are just some the ways in which those affected by a daily build up of stress seek a release from it. These coping methods only further complicate the issue as these methods, while they tend to provide a temporary relief or distraction from the current negative state of mind, end up causing much more detrimental problems that eventually have to be dealt with at some later time. There is, however, a very powerful solution. The best way to manage stress is to change the way you interpret and respond to your world. The process involves embracing an understanding of mind that harmonizes so much with life that it eliminates the conflict that causes stress in the first place. This is a powerful shift in awareness and it provides a new enriched way of living life each day. All stress is based on a negative interpretation of yourself or the circumstances you face in your world. It is generated by the friction created between what you believe to be true as it clashes with what you are experiencing or interpreting in your world moment to moment. It is based on the meaning you are giving to each situation. When this meaning includes a threat to your life or way of existing in some way shape or form, stress is the result. The way of interpreting your world that eliminates this friction is the way in which you see all things not as happening TO you but rather you see that they are actually happening FOR you in some way. This puts your mind in less conflict and hence less stress is the result.  You end up in more of an aware curious mood where you are looking for the nuggets of wisdom or insight that the particular circumstance is bringing you. You are no longer letting fear rule your mind but are adopting a more balanced approach that is based on a new faith in life and its way of presenting new information and awareness. You are trusting life. Is it possible to live nearly stress free? Yes, but it takes a true willingness to see the world in a new light. Like any new change there is a process to adopting this new attitude. You must really want to embrace the information that will change you! However, with a strong will for different experience and an open mind towards new ways of dealing with life, what you really need and desire will show up. (Hint, it’s happening right now…) A new stress-free and peaceful way of experiencing the inevitable challenges and ups and downs on your everyday journey is upon you! Howard Falco ( HowardFalco.com ) is an international author, speaker and spiritual teacher specializing in the power of the mind as it relates to the creation of the experience of life. His new book on human understanding and potential is titled,  I AM: The Power of Discovering Who You Really Are (Penguin Group). Known for his powerfully clear and relatable style, Howard presents the wisdom regarding how to harness more of the creative power of the mind to accomplish any desire or overcome any challenge you face in life, allowing you to achieve a greater sense of peace, understanding and fulfillment in the process. You can find him on Facebook at...

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A Word on the Tragedy in Connecticut

Posted on Dec 19, 2012

A Word on the Tragedy in Connecticut

  The recent event in Connecticut was an unfathomable tragedy. I’m sure I speak for everyone when I wish only the deepest thoughts of unconditional love, healing and peace to every family member and friend who is grieving. Each moment is so precious. The only way to prevent more of this senselessness is to acknowledge that there are still so many who need to know that they matter, that they are loved and that there is a place for them in this world. They need to know before it’s too late for them and other innocent people. Therefore, let this day be a catalyst to increase your love of your fellow man and woman tenfold. Let todays events not harden your heart and send you into anger, fear and vengeance, for that is the consciousness and energy that led to this tragedy in the first place. Instead choose love. Choose it greater than you have ever chosen it before. Smile bigger at everyone you see. Help your neighbor and fellow man when it is needed. Make it a point be a beacon of such light each day that these powerful ripples of love touch as many as possible. There is no other answer. You will hear talk for days in the media of what could have been done or what should be done. None of it, save love, will make a difference. Make today the day of an even more powerful way of living. In honor of them all make today the day you chose to love without end… “I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.” -Martin Luther King...

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The Value of Suffering

Posted on Aug 22, 2011

The Value of Suffering

Why do we suffer? This has to be one of the more frequently asked of the larger questions about life. Millions across the globe fall peril to daily suffering that often seems senseless. There is hardly a soul alive today that has not faced some form of either physical or mental suffering along the road of life. So where is the redemptive value in this pain? Since life is a never-ending process of the expansion of awareness, the direction this expansion takes is based on our intents and desires. There is a certain process of gaining the knowledge necessary to achieve these creative desires. Suffering is simply one part of this process. These desires could be as simple as wanted to eat and stay sheltered or as more complex as building a large business or sharing your creativity with the world, either way there is a process to accomplish these ideas. When information hits your senses that is not in line with what you believe is true about yourself, you suffer because of it. For example if you believe your particular job is the only way you can provide for yourself and you lose the job, your suffering will be a result of a mind that says I will not be able to provide for myself. However, if your belief is that you will always be able to provide for yourself and you lose your job, you may not suffer at all but actually may become excited about the new opportunities that may unfold for you. The suffering in this case is to represent to you that what you believe about how you provide is NOT true. The previous example can be used for any circumstance including the loss of a loved one, physical illness, financial concern, family troubles, relationship issues etc. The point being offered is that the value in the suffering is in the underlying message it is sending you regarding what you believe to be true. Suffering is telling you that the belief you hold that causes the suffering is NOT THE ULTIMATE TRUTH ABOUT WHO YOU ARE. There is a greater truth that is waiting to be embraced and when it is embraced suffering dissolves and peace and tranquility are yours to be experienced. This is not presented due to a lack of empathy or compassion for what anyone is going through in the world today. It is just the opposite. It is out off the greatest empathy, compassion and love that this information is offered as the way to experience the greatest amount of joy, peace and creative fulfillment along the journey of life. Suffering births questions. It is these questions that lead you to more of the answers you are truly looking for as you continue on your creative path. Suffering is simply a more pronounced way that the universe nudges you towards the great gift of self-reelection and self-awareness that allows you to experience more of the grandeur, magnificence and possibility of who you really are. The more you can see this the less you will suffer as you will see that life is always working with you and your deepest of desires. Howard Falco is a spiritual teacher and author of a powerful new book on self-awareness titled, “I AM: The Power of Discovering Who You Really Are (Tarcher/Penguin) http://www.thebookIAM.com He teaches and speaks on the power of the mind and the creation of personal reality. More about his work and schedule can be found at www.HowardFalco.com  ...

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New TV Interview about I AM

Posted on Apr 5, 2011

New TV Interview about I AM

Howard Falco is interviewed about his book I AM on The McMahon Group on AZTV. Watch the TV interview...

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Questions & Answers About Life Part 2

Posted on Nov 4, 2009

The following are questions submitted in a recent webinar I held in October titled “Master Your Reality”. Each week a few new questions and responses from the event will be posted. QUESTION: How can I accept that everything happens for a reason when I am at my breaking point while I am going through the process? RESPONSE: You do not have to accept this. You can choose to see nothing but randomness or bad luck but it will bring you no closer to a solution for your perceived problems. Accepting that things are happening for a reason gives you the chance to discover where the reality before you is coming from. Accepting that there is a purpose puts you in the path to find it, resolve it and hence change your reality so you no longer feel like you are at a breaking point. Acceptance IS the beginning of the pathway to change. QUESTION: Can you please talk more about how the universe is a giant mirror? What does that mean for our behavior and the way we think? How do we use this knowledge to our advantage? RESPONSE: What you believe is true is mirrored in the way you act. The universe reflects you actions back to you by what you experience from these thoughts and actions. When what you believe is not in sync with the reality you experience, you are confronted with this truth. Often times this is in painful ways. The purpose of the disharmony is to nudge you closer and closer to collective truth. When what you believe is in harmony with reality, you experience total peace and fulfillment. They way this knowledge can be used is how it allows you to be more aware of who you really are leading you to become a very powerful creator of your reality. QUESTION: What do you do when your practicing these techniques and are suddenly stuck a serious emotional blow? How do you bounce back? RESPONSE: You realize that you have overcome it ALL and that you are overcoming it ALL and that you will overcome it ALL. Emotional blows reveal attachments to the things in your outer world. The key is to enjoy and cherish those things while realizing that who you are at your very essence is always beyond the need for them. This allows for the most sacred and fulfilling experience of these things while you are experiencing them. When something seemingly devastating occurs the question to ask yourself is “Who do I want to be in relationship to this event.” Am I going to curl up in a ball forever or am I going to get up, dust off and choose to live life fully. The choice is always yours and it will determine not only the quality of your experience of life but what you create within it. The power over “time” is always with you. Check out my website for more information at...

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